Are You Tired Of Saying “I Have To”?
On a typical day in your life, how often do you use the phrase “I have to”?
“I have to do the groceries.”
“I have to go to this work meeting.”
“I have to work out.”
The Number One Question To Ask Your Inner Critic
A client came to me last week, lamenting how busy she is at work. She let me know she was “keeping on top of everything”, but based on the sheer volume of tasks and her available time, she was worried about the quality of work she was producing for her clients.
I asked her, “Have you had any negative feedback from clients about the quality of your work?”
She answered, “No.”
3 Steps to Plan Your Perfect Week (Monday Hour One)
When balancing the mum, work, freelance, friends, fitness, and personal life plates, it’s easy to watch our to do lists just grow and grow and seriously wonder when we’ll ever get to it all.
This was me around this time last year – I had notes upon notes in my phone, on my desk, and in my brain, and at the end of each week I had never achieved everything I wanted to.
I needed a new system and was curious and hopeful when I found the Monday Hour One process.
Why You Should Do A Thought Download Every Day
I spent most of last year trying to get better and more consistent with journaling my thoughts.
I have to admit I really only dabbled - I preferred doing yoga and some meditation in the morning and by the time I was ready for bed, the thought of writing pages on my inner most musings sounded exhausting.
Even though I saw benefits from journaling, including more gratitude and better sleep, it never really stuck.
I have become much more consistent with the practice and am using Brooke Castillo’s strategy of thought downloads.
How To Deal With Negative Thoughts (My Review of The Happiness Trap)
Based on the psychology of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), the book is centred on dispelling the widely sought after goal of chasing a constant state of happiness.
It also addresses the belief that negative thoughts get in the way of happiness and need to be eliminated or controlled.
As the name suggests, ACT teaches us how to stop struggling with negativity and accept negative thoughts as part of the complexity of our minds.
The Genius of Brooke Castillo’s Self Coaching Model
Brooke's main principles are represented in the Self Coaching Model.
Firstly I love the model because it, of course, implies you can do it for yourself.
Secondly, it is genius and completely obvious and difficult and mind-blowing and crazy hard all at the same time.
Let's take a look…
How To Feel Like You Have Plenty Of Time
I can’t even count how many times people said to me, “You think you’re busy now — well, wait until the baby comes.”
This felt like a pretty negative, fear-inducing statement to make to a pregnant woman, but I’m sure they were coming from the same place of indoctrination.
Once I had my daughter, I certainly understood what those well-meaning people meant. Much of my day was spent feeding her, changing nappies and trying to convince her to sleep. But I can also say I spent more time reading books and playing games on my phone (hello Cooking Craze!) than I probably ever had in my life. I began to wonder if I had more free time than I thought.
Segment Intending (AKA Trying To Live In The Moment)
What is segment intending?
Essentially to me, it means living in the moment or the activity you’re undertaking.
Abraham defines it a little differently as setting your vibration and pre-paving your path before moving into an activity, but let’s go with my definition for now…
How to Use the Lessons of Hypnobirthing to Change Everything
When they say that having a baby changes everything, I now realise they didn’t mean it in a positive way.
After reading The Happiness Trap many moons ago, I had a breakthrough and realised (shock) my thoughts were not the truth. What I hadn’t realised until I was pregnant, was that my overarching beliefs are not the truth either.
What I Learnt From Tracking My Time for A Week
I’ve talked about Laura Vanderkam many times on the blog - she is a time management author, who interviews and gathers time log data from a variety of people.
Her message is to essentially prove to us that we have more time than we think.
I agree with her concept, but when my brain starts to feel overwhelmed, I’m always pretty adamant I’m too tight on time and can spin out over that.